I’ve been trying to think of a way to put this into words…and I don’t actually think I’ve found an exceptionally sophisticated way to do so, but here goes nothing. This is a piece on friendship. The kind of friend you are, the kind of friend you want to be and the kind of friend you should want in your life.
I’ve been accompanied by the same group of best friends for as long as I can remember (and I’ve made some incredible new ones along the way!). When I try to think back to some of my first memories upon entering the world, they are in many of them. I look around at other people and realize how rare it is to stick together the way we have. On New Years Eve, I realized why I never want to lose these people, and why I hope they never want to lose me!
When the ball dropped, the girl who has been a best friend to me (long before I can remember) looked at me with tear-filled eyes and told me she will make 2015 an amazing year for me, and that she wouldn’t let anyone stand in the way of that. I told her how genuinely happy I was at that moment and she said, “I’m happy because you’re happy.” And that was it. She was seriously happy because I was.
That’s when I realized that in a true friendship, your joy, sorrow and everything in between doesn’t just belong to you. You share it with them, and not because you want them to feel it, because your feelings are their feelings. I looked back at all of my life’s events, and as my spirits changed, I saw their spirits change right along with me. When I cried, they cried, when I was happy, they were happy. How cool is it that other people honestly feel happy because you are? If that doesn’t make you feel special, I don’t know what does.
I then considered their moments. I remember their accomplishments and heartbreaks as if they are my own personal memories. I can still feel what we felt many years ago when we got news of any kind (did we cry through each other’s breakups? You bet). I genuinely enjoy hearing about their days at work. If someone at work gives them trouble, I get angry and we find a way for US to mend the problem, as if I can actually go to work with them as backup.
So I guess here’s what you can think about. Do you have someone (or more than one someone) in your life that makes you feel like you are never alone? It’s more than just a support system, it’s like an extension of your existence. People are shaped by people. We are attracted to certain people, befriend certain people and stick with certain people for a reason. We aren’t meant to go through life alone.
I hope you have “your person” (or people) that share all of life’s occurrences with you, and you with them. Don’t take these people for granted. Don’t let ANYONE take you for granted. Give your friend(s) a hug. Tell them you appreciate all of the times they’ve cried and laughed not with you, but for you.
And to my sweet friends: I thank you. I will never be able to properly express the gratitude I feel for what you’ve done for me.
Sending much love from my soul to yours,
The Sunflower Child