I have learned that when we go through something so tragic that life seems to be irrevocably un-livable, we are forced into two very different situations. We are 1) put into a state of weakness that is so foreign that we wonder how we ever thought any of our previous experiences could actually be labeled as “painful” and 2) forced to pull out a strength we had no idea existed. So, during our toughest moments we are ripped into an utterly pathetic form of weakness while finding the most indescribable level of strength we could have ever imagined.
What is the point of these two statements? It’s the irony of a tragedy. We are thrown into an all-time low while unknowingly finding an incredible strength. We are in two completely different mental states at one time. Our absolute low pushes us into an unexpected high. And just so you know, I am comfortable saying “we.” I know I’m not alone.
People look at me as I have looked at so many others and say, “How do you do it? How do you keep going?” The first thing that comes to mind is, “I really don’t have a choice. I’m alive, in good health and God willing, have a lot of life to live.” But we go on because we have survived sadness. We made it one day, another day and those days turn into weeks and months, etc. Eventually we realize we’re just doing it. That’s the whole point. We don’t recognize the strength that’s being supplied by our brain’s ability to force us to rise above the weakness. We are weak, but we are oh so strong.
I am stronger because I can now look common problems in the face and conquer them with no fear. Little things are just that. Little. We have learned what the big things really are and because of that, we are stronger than we’ve ever been.
I encourage you to let your weakness lift you into a state of strength from which you will never fall. Approach life head on with a bright spirit and an optimistic heart. It will help. You can do it.
I applaud all of you who are finding the ability to go on and live your life in spite of the weakness. I applaud you for taking the sorrow and becoming a stronger person because of it. You are my inspiration.
For now, I will leave you with this: Smile and keep going. I have learned that it can ALWAYS be worse, even when that seems impossible. Let your strength teach you how to live your life the best way you possibly can. It will lead you to the happiness that seems so unreachable.
Sending much love from my soul to yours,
The Sunflower Child